“I need help” how these three words can change a life

I used to always keep it for myself when I was deeply sad. I didn’t want to “bother” friends; I was afraid of their reactions; plus, I wasn’t always sure of what exactly I was feeling inside, or how to put words to it. 

For a long time I thought “that’s ok I can do it on my own. I will read some books and it will help”. And I did some improvements, but I got stuck so many times as well in my own loops. 

When I started to share a bit more with loved ones, I remember friends advising me to talk to a therapist, or to get a life coach; to help me overstep some barriers I had in my mind. 

Every single time someone told me this, my first reaction was “it is too expensive, I won’t spend that much money on this, and I already have all I need in me. I am the one in power”. (Which is funny, given how much money I was spending on diet and “getting thin”). 

But asking for help doesn’t mean that the other one will do the work for you. It doesn’t give away your power. Sometimes we just need the guidance of someone who has been through this and who can help us along the way. But the steps, at the end, will still be ours to take. 

So I did ask for help one day. And another one. And another one. When I felt I needed it, to share my pain and to allow myself to receive support. Which allowed me to find the strength within me to grow. 

Until today I still use tips and tricks we put into motion with the people I worked with. And I am still deeply grateful for all of these. 

Because at the end, don’t you think that you deserve the best? That you deserve to free yourself from self-judgment, from fear, from a poor body image, from diet,…? That you deserve to embrace who you are and how beautiful and incredible you are? 

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How to lose weight in 2 weeks?

Why did you click here? Was it the promise to lose weight within 2 weeks? Was it the hope of losing some kilos, to “finally be happy”? Was it, because your body image is the thing you think the most about every single day?

Whatever the reason is, this is why I named this article that way. It may not be fair for some. But I wanted to talk to YOU. You who thinks you have to change your body so badly. You who is probably lacking of self-love. You who may be moving your body out of fear, instead of love. 

I used to scroll down instagram and to stop on posts like : “tips and tricks to lose weight easily”; or stories like “What did I do to lose 5 kilos within a week”; ⁠or “how to lose weight without doing any diet”?

I used to only look for these things.
I used to grab a magazine if I saw a new diet so I could try it. ⁠

In the hope to finally feel better. In the hope that with these X kilos less I would feel happy and confident. ⁠So I get it. I get you. I have been there.

But here is the secret: with X kilos less or more, it will not make you happier. I was miserable even at my skinniest. ⁠

I was miserable no matter the number on the scale. ⁠

It was never enough. ⁠

💛 And one day I discovered I am neither just my body, neither am I my weight.
I am not just an image.
I am not just what he/you/they see.
My body has never been the issue. Neither was my weight.
Because I already was, and still am: shining inside and out.

So I have one last question for you: are you ready to shine too?

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Why diet culture is toxic

Why diet culture is toxic ? Or what you will never hear from me in my classes

Dear fitness and diet industries, you triggered me so many times. “Get bikini ready, “This will burn your fat away”, “More crunches to get your six pack”, “sweat that cake out”, “find out how to lose weight for the summer”, and so on… oh dear, how much it triggered me at some point in my life. 

How guilty and disgusting you made me feel. Instead of empowering the woman that I already was at that time.

Don’t get me wrong, I like the idea of encouraging people to push themselves a bit more, of taking care of their body through healthy eating and moving.

BUT there is a big difference for me between encouraging and making people feel guilty or like sh** about the cake they may have eaten, or not having a ‘bikini body’ (if someone can please explain to me what a bikini body is honestly…), or not looking a certain way, or or or…

We feel then we are never good enough, never reaching this ‘perfection’, so we keep going for it, over and over : diet culture is a toxic fake ‘friend’ that supposingly wants your well-being.

So I make it an important point in all of my classes or any of my exercises, to share with you words of self-love, empowerment, self-esteem :

“show yourself how powerful and badass you are”, “you got this”, “give yourself a high five”, “you are doing amazing, keep going for it”,… and so on,…

So we can work together on boosting your self-esteem instead of crushing it.

I do want to give you the inspiration to go higher, to develop your self-respect, your sense of self-worth,… I want you during a class or any exercise to be you and to feel powerful and beautiful exactly as you are now. 

The idea is not to associate these moments with suffering or “I have to do this exercise to compensate for what I ate”, but instead to bring this feeling of “I want to do this to do good to my body and mind. I want to feel empowered.”

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Do I need to be flexible to do yoga?

Do I need to be flexible to do yoga?

If I had received 1 euro, everytime someone told me ‘I am not flexible enough, I can’t do yoga’, I would be really rich today! 

I know that nowadays we see yoga flourish everywhere, and that for a lot of people when they think yoga they picture a girl in a legging doing crazy stuff with her body. But to me, this isn’t what yoga is about.

Yoga isn’t about how you look, how flexible you are, if you have the perfect trendy outfit for it, if you are an expert or a beginner… Yoga is a way of living on and out of your mat. 

• Yoga is here to teach us how to come back to our body, to our senses.

• It helps us to open up and create space within ourselves.

• It helps us to reconnect with what we are feeling and how our body is processing it.

And yes, yoga will help you to become more flexible with time (this is the magic of it!).

What did yoga bring into my life? 

It enabled me to reconnect with my body that I had treated so badly. Yoga brought calm and quiet into my mind, which was such an amazing gift for me, since for so many years, the only things I could think about were my look and food. Instead I discovered, with practice, how to reconnect with my breath and how things felt within. 

Yoga helped me to open up my body, to get a better posture, it taught me patience and helped me to raise my self-esteem and confidence. 

Yoga taught me to look at my body as this amazing vessel that it was, and to get such a better body image thanks to it.

And YES with time, yoga improved my flexibility and increased my range of motion.

But if you had one thing to remember, it is that : you do not need to look a certain way to practice, you do not need to be a certain age, you do not need to be able to put your leg around your neck to be a “yogini”, you do not need to be flexible to practice.

I adapt my classes to all levels, I always give options so that everyone can find something for them. I share with you in my classes way more than “just some poses”. 

Check out my online program, to discover what yoga can do for you. 

Why is Yoga important in our life?

Why is Yoga important in our life?

How did yoga change your life?” I remember this friend asking me this question, as I was explaining to her how yoga was helping me with anxiety, my body image; what yoga was doing to my body and my mental health,…

Because yoga can be practiced anywhere, at any time, even without a mat. Yoga isn’t only a “sport”, it is a way of living your life.

But how? By practicing what we learn and experience on the mat in our daily life, when we are out of the mat. 

Ok, but then : what does yoga teach us when we are practicing?

Yoga teaches us:

How to be present, here and now. This can be the case, no matter where, with who, and what you are doing. Being fully here allows you to cherish the time you are living.

How to breathe. Deep breath in, deep breath out. Our breath is such a powerful tool, either to calm down, to clear my mind, to help detoxifying the body,… even in “normal life” if we come back over and over to it: it can do magic.

How to stop self-comparison. On the mat your drishti/gaze is on YOU and you don’t compare yourself to your neighbor; it is the same outside of the mat your focus is you

How to be kind, gentle towards yourself and treating yourself with compassion and love. As on the mat where your practice can change, life does too. We all have better days than others. Then we can choose to observe it and treat ourselves with the exact same compassion as we would on the mat.

How to get up again if you fall. Have you ever fallen from the Tree pose? Probably, many of us have. How did you react then? “no that’s it I will never EVER do the tree pose ever again?” No way! You fell and you got back on it. This is the same in life: sometimes we fall, we learn, we try out our balance. But we don’t give up! We stand tall and proud and we go back for it.

This is why yoga is so important in our life. This is why it can change a life.

Try remembering: you can practice yoga on and off your mat. Even if you do not have the opportunity to take a class: “real life” can be an exciting playground to practice.

You are not sure where to start with your practice? Check my 8 weeks online program to help you reconnect with yourself. 

How to start intuitive eating?

Having gone through eating disorders, the way I ate had such a strong impact on how I mentally and physically felt, and how high or low my level of self-esteem was. 

I have a big journey to reconcile my eating and my body. But I am the living proof that it can get better, and you can get out of eating disorders. 

It took me quite a while to reconnect with real intuitive eating, and to fully feel how what I ate had an impact on how I physically felt. 

I was craving so many things, so often, that I thought it was what my body needed. I thought this was ‘intuitive eating’, so I was quite happy to do this and eat that way.

But it was only recently that I reconnected so deeply with my body, that I observed : it wasn’t intuitive eating. It was still me coping with my emotions through food.  

Nowadays, I know what does good to my body and fully gives me fuel for the day and makes my mind as well feel clear and strong. And I learned to notice as well what type of food made me kind of tired, slow and foggy. 

So here are the intuitive eating tips to I use on myself:

  • I stopped writing down what I ate. I know many people can recommend the contrary. Stopping this actually gave me mental space back and pushed me to reconnect directly with how my body felt, instead of letting my head talk
  • What works and feels great for your neighbor, sister, best friend,… doesn’t have to suit you! This is a big one. Looking towards “free eaters”, we tend to think “Ok I will just eat exactly the same, so I end up looking the same, feeling the same,…”. But the magic of human beings makes all of us different people. Different needs, different reactions,… So maybe they can eat in a certain way, but maybe for you it just won’t bring you what YOUR body needs
  • Do not give a damn about what people may or may not think about what you eat. This is your body, your choice. YOURS only (taking into consideration you are a grown-up person, fully able to feed yourself). 
  • There is no ‘perfect diet’. So give yourself some peace of mind and stop trying to reach for it. Everything is really about balance. 
  • I choose what I eat thinking about how the food makes me feel afterwards, and the feeling it brings me (I love sweets and eating chocolate brings me so much joy, so I eat it without any guilt feeling). 
  • I stopped “punishing myself” for what I ate during the day. I used to feel really guilty if I ate something I thought “I shouldn’t have” without compensating for it. I stopped this, because our body is SO freaking incredible: it absorbs the energy of these feelings as well. So this is what it brings to every cell and every part of ourselves when we associate a ‘bad’ emotion to food. Instead I thank the food every single time for giving me energy, strength and love.
  • I reconnect over and over to my body. If I feel I overeat one day, because I couldn’t do otherwise at that point: I offer myself compassion and love, and fully trust my body to balance everything. Because this is how magic it is. 

It is a process, but the more you practice, the easier it gets.

If you feel you need some help to reconnect with how you feel within, with what your body needs: come and let’s go through this together. Check out my online program here.