I used to always keep it for myself when I was deeply sad. I didn’t want to “bother” friends; I was afraid of their reactions; plus, I wasn’t always sure of what exactly I was feeling inside, or how to put words to it.
For a long time I thought “that’s ok I can do it on my own. I will read some books and it will help”. And I did some improvements, but I got stuck so many times as well in my own loops.
When I started to share a bit more with loved ones, I remember friends advising me to talk to a therapist, or to get a life coach; to help me overstep some barriers I had in my mind.
Every single time someone told me this, my first reaction was “it is too expensive, I won’t spend that much money on this, and I already have all I need in me. I am the one in power”. (Which is funny, given how much money I was spending on diet and “getting thin”).
But asking for help doesn’t mean that the other one will do the work for you. It doesn’t give away your power. Sometimes we just need the guidance of someone who has been through this and who can help us along the way. But the steps, at the end, will still be ours to take.
So I did ask for help one day. And another one. And another one. When I felt I needed it, to share my pain and to allow myself to receive support. Which allowed me to find the strength within me to grow.
Until today I still use tips and tricks we put into motion with the people I worked with. And I am still deeply grateful for all of these.
Because at the end, don’t you think that you deserve the best? That you deserve to free yourself from self-judgment, from fear, from a poor body image, from diet,…? That you deserve to embrace who you are and how beautiful and incredible you are?
why should i try it?